Growing Self-confidence to the Child

The characteristics of the self-confidence not only must be owned by the adult, but children also needed him in his development became mature. The characteristics of the self-confidence were difficult to be said obviously. But the big possibility of the person that the self-confidence can receive himself, was ready to accept the challenge in a sense wanted to try something that was new although he realise that the wrong possibility must be available. The person that the self-confidence not frightened of stating his opinion in front of the crowd. The feeling of the self-confidence helped us to face the situation in the association and to handle various tasks with more was easy. For children, the feeling of the self-confidence made them could overcome the pressure and the refusal from friends on his age. The child that the self-confidence had equipment that was more complete to face the situation be difficult and dared to ask for help if they needed him. They were rarely touched on. Precisely they often had the attraction that made the person other wanted to be friendly towards him. They were not frightened of being high-achieving good in the school or to show that they were indeed creative. The self-confidence not was the gift from being born, also did not fall from sky. Children found it easy very much felt inferior, felt could not, unimportant, because of having many matters that must be studied, and the older person appeared so clever. Children needed urging and the support continually. If parents or the teacher could play a role well, children will have the feeling of the self-confidence. If you wanted to develop the feeling of the self-confidence in himself the child you, there was no term late to begin. You will precisely give the gift was best for the child you and yourself yourself.


Developed the Feeling of the Self-confidence
Although often protest against if felt was restricted, children will receive if having the certain rule in acting. If parents continued to change the child's routine you or not consistent in the matter of discipline, the child will be confused. For example, today his rule like this, but tomorrow other. The day after tomorrow, the child will wonder, "Now I must how." That like yesterday or like the day before yesterday? Show that you believed the child you had the capacity, by giving him the tasks that could the implementation and caused the feeling to go along had. For example, children usually like to answer the telephone. Teach him the method answered the polite and true telephone. Then, gave him the opportunity to carry him out. Please also asked for help of the child to get things that will be bought in the supermarket shelf, definitely the thing that was not easy to break, for example milk, bath soap, et cetera. Keep yourself to very fast intervened helped the child to do something. Helped might-might, but was not significant take over or immediately took part in the interference without he asked. Encouraged he to not be too easy said, "I could not, I not would be able to," or "I was indeed stupid." One important matter parents must take care to do not stamp the "lazy person's" child, the "foundation" of the "shy person", the "stupid child", et cetera. Indeed some children possibly too much will not heed words like that. But another part will develop the identity himself from these negative comments, despite you said him spontaneously and truly did not mean humiliated himself. Invest the attitude that do wronging not the sin that was not pardoned, that thought someone not always could be counted was based on perfection produced by his work. That was important not true or wrong, but how he carried him out. Made this as the guide for yourself also. Honored and appreciated the child you. Don't was ashamed of him in front of friends sebaya him, or in front of the other adult, or in front of the public. If the child you do wronged, called he to the quiet place, or discussed that in the house. If you spoke, used the tone of the voice like that was hoped for by you would the use during him spoke.

Listen to the child you and pushed him to think independent
Learned to maintain himself needed the big strength. The place was best for practised becoming the person that the self-confidence was in the house. Appreciate ideas that he stated. Say repeatedly to the child you that you believed he could. And had a positive attitude in front of other people about what could be done by the child you. By means of like that, the child will be sure that you really trusted his capacity. Create the opportunity for experiences and the new challenge. Widen the interest and the child's skills you. Was prepared to accept efforts that has the implementation, whether whatever results. Not only saw produced by finally then. Than said to the child what might not be carried out, better said what might the implementation. For example, than said "you might not enter the person's house without permission," better said, "you might enter the person's house if already excuse me and was invited to enter." Before commenting on the behaviour of the negative child, thought previously two three times, while considering to always stressed positive matters.